Behaviour, Expectations & Training
Behaviour, expectations and training are indivual from relationship to relationship.
Good etiquette should be maintained at all times by both the Dominant and
the submissive. A submissive gives themselves freely to a Dominant and
this is a gift, not a reason to bully them. A true D/s relationship is built on the foundation of honesty,
respect and absolute trust, and should never be taken lightly by either partner. Being in a D/s relationship
means that certain behaviours, expectations and further training must be put in place, and this is done through
communication and with the aid of a check list. A check list is a good comunication tool to introduce your
desires and needs. Limits and boundaries can be pushed a little but a safe word should be in place if for
any reason any activity has to end. Further discussions can be made at a later date. We all have freedom
of choice and the lifestyle is about expressing who you are, whether your submissive or a Dominant. Certain
behaviours are expected, politeness, how to address a Dominant, being aware of "wannabees" and not leading yourself
into abusive situations, physically or emotionally. In reality you are still a human being and you chose
this lifestyle. The Dominant is there to guide you, lead you and maintain a safe foundation for you
and the lifestyle.
The behaviour/expectations of a Dominant
are that they should also be open, honest and respectful but have the ability to lead and
keep a submissive safe and out of danger. Also remaining polite but in more of an
authoritive manner. Limits, boundaries, desires and needs should be the responsibility
of the Dominant to fulfill, although your word is final. Your instruction and training
of a submissive also reflects on you, they are your gift, they have chosen you and look up to
you for guidance. With confidence you can tell a submissive what is expected of them and make
sure everything is in place before having any play activities or engaging in any scenes. If any
concerns are made to you, to discuss them and put further training in place, if something is
impossible or dangerous a precise reasoning to why should be said and that your word is final.
You should be able to carry out any punishment, if a submissive has disrespected you any way
and correction of this behaviour should be dealt with precisely and directly. You are
expected to help your sub in understanding the different levels of submission and how to achieve the levels.
The behaviour/expectations of a submissive are that they should be open, honest and respectful, polite at all times as your actions will reflect upon your Dom/me and if inappropriate can lead to loss of trust, a break down in communication, or punishments and in severe cases your service terminated. A submissve should be able to carry out instructions and obey his/her Dominant. Desires and needs should be discussed at all times and a realistic solution will be negotiated with the Dominant. If you are in a 24/7 D/s relationship then you will have had specific training, acquired knowledge on how to carry out your every day duties and have a contract in place. Communicating with a Dom/me is not an open reason to "whinge or whine" they are there to guide you and their word is final. Share your concerns in a respectful manner and remain calm, sharing is good but done in the right way will lead to positive solutions. If further training is required then your Dom/me can put this in place. Accepting your Dom/mes decision if they feel scenes are dangerous or unsafe, remember they know best and you need to respect this. If there is any disrespect, you must accept that you will be dealt with directly and to take whatever punishment is seen fit. Understand your levels of submision and what is expected of you, this is all part of your training.
General submissive/slave Rules
|1.|| All Masters and Mistresses are to be addressed as either Master (Sir) or Mistress (Ma'am). If the sex of the Dominant
cannot be determined from the name (as in on-line activities for example), (Sir) is to be used until the gender is clarified.
|2.||Serve every Master or Mistress as
if your well being depends on being pleasing; it does.
|3.||While your Master/Mistress may not
always be right, they are, by definition, never WRONG. subs always have the last word in any disagreement, the words "Yes, Master/Mistress"
|4.||Jealousy and Possessiveness have killed more subs than disobedience. If it will please your Master/Mistress it will please you.
|5.||submissives do not use the first person pronoun. There is no "I", "me" or "mine" in a subs vocabulary unless the Dom/me has stated otherwise.
|6.||Perfection of Service and submission is the goal, mere good enough will not be tolerated.
If you're a collared sub your collar carries the honour of your Master/Mistress. Your attitude can make it as light as a feather or as heavy as a mountain.
|8.||If there is no service, use the time to clean, cook, bake, practice serving techniques with your brothers and sisters (fellow submissives) or learn more about submission. Do not be idle.|
"slaves" possess nothing not given to them by their Master/Mistress, including their name. What is given can be taken away. If you are entrusted to carry a name for a Master/Mistress, or silks or jewellery, remember that these can be removed as easily as they were given.
|10.||The merest whim of your Master/Mistress is your highest law, and lawbreakers are not tolerated.|
The submissive Agreement of Service (Creed)
I will communicate with complete honesty my needs, desires, limits and experience. I realise that failing to do so will not only prevent my Master/Mistress and I from having the best experience possible, but can also lead to physical and emotional harm.
I will not try to manipulate my Master/Mistress. I will not push to make a situation go the way I feel it should.
I will keep an open mind about trying things that I am not accustomed to, or comfortable with, and thus expand my limits.
I will continue to grow as a sub and as a human being.
I will accept the responsibility of discovering what pleases my Master/Mistress, and will do my best to fulfil His/Her wishes and desires.
I will be courteous and helpful to my fellow submissives; I will share my knowledge and experiences with others in the hope that they will learn from where I have been. I will take the time to help those new to the scene start out on the correct path. With out divulging personal details and activities.
I will be responsive to my Master/Mistress, I will not try to hide what my mind and body are feeling so that I may assist Him/Her in His/Her responsibilities as my Authority, I know that Dominants are not telepathists, and will not expect my Master/Mistress to know thought or feelings which I do not share.
I will never think myself a "better" sub because I choose to submit on a different level than another. I will not be boastful of experiences I have had as a sub. I know that my actions reflect upon my Master/Mistress, and will do my best to help others see him/her in a positive way; I will not intentionally embarrass or displease my Master/Mistress.
Above all, I will wear my title of sub with honour, I will never cause others to think that being sub means to be weak or less human. I will take pride in who and what I am, and will never show myself in a negative way.